Verbalizing and getting a date

This one made my day, LOL...not because I think he's funny, but it reminds me of my teen years. Boys giving one another techniques on how to get girls. I learned a few and tried some, too. Joe needs a little help....he's 18 but any man can get something from his question. This is the type I like to ask my readers to contribute. Read Joe's e-mail question:

Hi the doctor 2 be,

I have one problem and that is the art of flirting, how to attract and have a girl, in most cases i fail to how to tell .and sometimes i feel am a looserbcause all ma friends laugh @ me. i live in Oslo and there are really hot girls but i do no,how to trap them in ma nett. and another thing is dat when am introduced to the stranger i run out of words to say ,i would like to be da most talkactive but damn how, i hope u will help me thanks am Joe ,18 yrs.

RESPONSE:

Joe, at that age it's normal to be a little shy to approach girls. Sometimes fear of rejection gets in the way of your chance to get your favorite girl's attention....date...or who knows what. There are many helpful tips; I will give a few and I anticipate many comments on this posting.

To thine own self be true: Be confidence in your own skin; by that I mean you should know who you are, how special you are in your own way, and acknowledge your strengths. Whatever comes from your mouth when you talk to that girl, make sure that it doesn't conflict your set of beliefs, values, essence, knowledge. If you are confident it shows....don't pretend to be what you're not, that's a recipe for a nervous disaster.

Love thyself: Take time to take care of yourself, at all times be clean...smell good, put on nice clothes (to your taste). It boosts confidence, and it is attractive. Don't forget to highlight your gifts/talents when the opportunity presents itself, or find it (not forcefully, though). Speak clearly with a normal tone.

To all girls be a gentleman: Show interest in them, start with a smile and be the first to say hello...and introduce yourself at the right environment. Pull chairs, open doors, take coats...all that. Be aware of your body language at all times, appear open for communication. Make eye contact, and when your sights meet...smile!. Remember their names, and say their names at hello, and at good-bye.

Learn conversation skills, many girls like to talk and be listened. That could be a positive for quiet guys with confidence. Read and be aware of current events so that you can have something to share. The truth about women, whether young or old...they are not all the same, neither are men. So there's no one size fits all formula. Some like introverts, others like extroverts. That is why it is important to not try to be something you're not, to fit in.

Amongst those cute girls in Oslo there could be one, or some that like your personality, and would like to talk to you (at least). Don't be afraid to walk up to them and start a small conversation after introduction. You won't die, if they aren't interested be assured that there is someone who is interested in you....and she might be too shy to start talking to you. Sometimes all you need to do is JUST DOING IT...when u start talking you will talk, if you don't...you wont, and you won't get the number or a rejection.

Let's go Joe!

I hope to get comments from other readers, too.